Illness, Disease, Adversity…
The old saying ‘You don’t know what it is like until you’ve experienced it’…is so true when it comes to addiction.
The pain in our hearts watching our eldest son slide into an “unknown place” from heavy substance abuse has been debilitating.
Just as hard to watch was the relationships breaking down amongst our 5 boys, reacting normally as fear engulfed the family.
Fear of our son not returning home because he was dead somewhere. Fear of when the next episode would erupt in our once noisy but calm home.
We never really gave it much thought over the years, you would hear of people ‘going off the rails’, or you may think they must be a bit of a loser or a bad person to get caught up in an addiction and everything that goes with it.
Or even better…It’s all “their” fault, they’re weak and don’t have any willpower.
Or…” those parents need to put their foot down, be stronger with their discipline” …etc. etc.
Addiction is indiscriminate, you hear of celebrities, your old classmates, or ‘those’ kids who live in suburbs where you might expect this type of thing.
“It will never happen to us” …famous last words…But it did, and it hit with the force of a Mack truck.
You don’t know what is going on…until it has taken hold and it IS going on!
Business As Usual
We have been in London getting treatment for our son for almost 6 months, working hard on understanding this illness and how we all play a part in the process.