‘You don’t know what it is like until you’ve experienced it’… is so true when it comes to being a mother, a partner and running a successful business.
Every kid’s age has its dark zone…having had five babies, who now range in age from 10 to 21.
Every. Single. Day.
There have been time where uniforms could not be found, drink spilt in bags, library books lost…on more than one occassion. Oops. Organising lunches, reminding kids about homework, readers, library books, sport…blah, blah, blah… and this is before 8 am, not something I would call successful.
A slightly different picture to someone who doesn’t have to concern themselves with anyone else. Who can get up…have that HOT cup of coffee before heading off to work.
It is only in the past year, I can truthfully say this is me again, after being in this ‘mother’ job for almost 22 years.
The point here is not comparing one situation to an another…the point here is about YOU and YOUR situation, so that you get the results you want.
When you make the decision to go out on your own, when you have come up with a unique and valuable idea of ‘that thing’, that business idea where you get to call the shots, grow your business, make money AND be the mother and partner you want to be….WELL DONE YOU!
It wasn’t until I hit the big 4…0 where I took the courage to really commit to doing something for me.
Looking back, I was completely naïve when it came to business, I thought Nurse Power (my first business) would build itself and I would have clients miraculously falling from the sky.
All I had to do was create a program, blog, make a video or two and everyone would line up to buy it.
I didn’t know what I didn’t know…and still, don’t at times :)
Being a newbie back in the day to the business space, I attended networking events, as that is what we are told to do right? Now wasn’t that fun, standing in a group of glamorous women, dressed beautifully, heels on, immaculate hair…and then there was me.
I felt like a fraud, a fish out of the water, having that mindset of thinking that I didn’t know enough, or have enough runs on the board because I was new to business…feeling inadequate, and you guessed it, not connecting to the people in the room.
It was my problem, my ideas on what I thought a successful person in business should look like.
To be honest, I felt underdressed, under-heeled, under-successful and not welcome.
I realise now that is was my problem, and not theirs.
Fast forward almost 10 years and things are a little different.
As a mother, I put the pressure on me to ‘fit in’ and do what everyone else was doing.
The thing is, I didn’t know, I didn’t know.
I followed other women in business, mentors, self-help books, all of which I perceived to show me the ‘right’ way to grow my business, all based on perception I might add. I cant recall too many factual evidence at the time.